Hello beautiful people!
Recently I began writing letters to some of my closest girlfriends. I did so, because there’s nothing quite like a heartfelt handwritten letter sent to you by mail but mostly because I wanted to communicate with them, that I appreciate, value and I love each of them no matter the different or similar seasons we walk in.
This is what sparked what I am about to share with you next. I decided that I am going to write a letter to my old self, different parts of my old self; Characteristics I once used to be oh so familiar with and some that I still struggle with until this day. I’ve said it once and I will say it once more, that: life is NOT meant to be done alone. So if you identify with one, most or all of these characteristics, I love you and I pray this uplifts you right where you are. May the Lord strengthen you and hold you in his precious hand. In Jesus name, Amen.
I’m no expert, but I’m here to encourage. For my fellow people that already know these bible scriptures and have heard them countless times and still find they are struggling with the below characteristics; We’re human. We are human but it does not pardon the fact that if this is battle that you need to quit fighting. Fighting doesn’t have to be fist punches. Your fighting could be searching for a piece of scripture that speaks to your particular struggle, writing it down on a cue card (or 2), placing it in a common area you’re often in (i.e: Bathroom mirror, car dashboard, bedroom dresser etc…), and repeating it to yourself. Make it your memory verse and permanently imprint it on the tablet of your heart.
To the one that let’s other peoples opinions dictate their life #identitycrisis :
I hear you. You’re entire being is happy to make others happy, but is it really worth it? It’s impossible for you to satisfy every friend, family, enemy or human being at once. You will constantly need to tweek something about yourself if you live for the words of others. Learn to form your own opinions. If you don’t know something own up to it. Sometimes ‘I don’t know’ is a good enough answer. The clutter of people’s voices has the ability to not let you clearly hear the voice that really matters, God’s.
Your prayer: “ Heavenly Father, silence the voices around me so that I can hear Yours. You are the one that really matters. Release me O Lord from the captivity of other people’s words over my life. Give me abundant grace to extend to them. May I take comfort in knowing that my identity lies in you and not in the mouth of man. Lord, if/when you speak through someone who is speaking to me, may I correctly discern that it is You. When they speak may it align with Your will and Your word. But even if someone does speak whether they be a Christian or not, whether they be a friend, a stranger or someone of authority in my life; Nevertheless, may I have the willingness to seek You and know Your will for me. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.”
To the one who struggles with insecurity and low self-esteem:
So a short story about myself. As a teenager I was comparing myself to others and being insecure about my physical appearance. And I remember wanting so badly for my dad to reassure me that I was beautiful. I didn’t want to have to tell him, to tell me so. I wanted him to communicate that by his own initiative. Quick backstory: My dad is African (I’m not saying all African dads are like this) and so I think maybe he wasn’t raised with that kind of tenderness (we’re working on it *insert wink emoji*) I love him though (Hi dad!) and he’s a devoted supporter/reader of my blog.
Moving on, I remember I was at a youth conference and we had to write down on a paper what we wanted to pray about and what issues we were dealing with in life. I had written exactly what I just mentioned and I was sobbing relentlessly. I recall my youth pastor at the time said before praying for me God takes pleasure in us taking care of ourselves and styling/caring for our hair and so on. God takes great joy in letting you know that you are loved and in you loving yourself, the very being He created.
I want you to know your worth. Never mind what I want, God wants you to know that you are fearfully and wonderfully. (Psalm 139:14). Part of Ephesians 2: 10 says that we are God’s workmanship. Art, craft and handiwork are just a few synonyms for the word workmanship. Delight in knowing that you are God’s work.
Genesis 1:27 (NKJV)
“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
How beautiful it is that the God of the universe, with all His greatness, goodness and glory decided to make you and I. He molded us in our mother’s womb, He knew us before we were born (Jeremiah 1:5), He knew us before we were even a thought. Oh the beauty that is in knowing that when God created man, He took His holy hands and made man out of dust and breathed life into his nostrils; He spoke all of the earth into motion, but saw fit that you and I were worth being molded and shaped by Him.
In the words of Dr. Seuss : “Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is youer than you.” I quote this because I found that when I struggled with insecurity or even now when I am insecure about something it is often times because I am comparing myself. It may be different for you, but for me, I found that comparing myself to others (facial features, body features, spiritual walk, talents, program I had decided to study in school etc…) was the root of my misery, my insecurity, my self-doubt and my bitterness; And if you keep feeding into it, it darkens & poisons your heart. That is what had caused me to isolate myself from others. We are sons and daughters of a king; A King who sent His one and only son to die for you and I. For lack of a less cliché sentence, God thought you were to die for.
Your prayer: Lord, uproot anything that causes me to be insecure. Let me rest in full assurance that You made me, a beautiful creation. Let me rest assured that I am indeed your son/daughter and because of that I am of royal priesthood. Teach me Lord to love myself, to not doubt myself, and to embrace who I am in You. In Jesus name, Amen.
To the brokenhearted:
To be heart broken is tough. And it’s even harder knowing that though someone is heartbroken for the same reasons as you that they will never truly comprehend the pain that you are enduring.
Proverbs 34:18 (ESV)
“The Lord is near to the broken hearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
God is not only a healer of sicknesses and diseases; He mends shattered hearts (Psalm 147:3). My broken heart had been caused by several different things, but one thing I’ll highlight on is words. Hurtful words were spoken to me. And I’m the type of person (depending on the day and event) that remembers every little detail, sometimes down to what the person was wearing or the date. Another thing about myself is that when something happens (good or bad) I replay it in my head, I replayed the hurtful words said. If you’re like me then take that habit of replaying bad memories that caused you heartbreak and replace it with scripture, like the ones I provided. The bible is a whole encyclopedia, you can search for yourself for more.
Your prayer: “Lord I believe that you are the mender of broken hearts. I know that it may take time, but I put my trust You, knowing that you are a promise keeper and a healer. Lord if my broken heart has caused me to build up walls or has caused me to be bitter, I ask you to uproot it as I lay it all down at Your cross; Where you overcame it all Jesus. May I not grow weary and may I be confident in knowing that you are near. Guide my steps Father. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.”
To the one that struggles with fear & worry:
Immanuel is the Hebrew name than translates into ‘God with us’. There’s no need to fear for God is with you (Isaiah 41:10). Fear paralyzes you, I find it leaves you in a place of comfort and familiarity; And if you don’t know yet, life does begin at the end of your comfort zone. I find fear holds you back when you’re supposed to be moving forward. As for worry I’ll let this next scripture do the speaking when Jesus said:
Matthew 6:27 (ESV)
“And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?”
Worry comes a little too naturally for me. I have about a thousand thoughts going through my head a minute. I also like to know things, especially when it comes to my life. So far I have a glimpse of where God wants me, but not the full picture. And ya’ll know I’m detail oriented. Like, ” Hello, hi God? Do you mind revealing all that you have for me in this life at once so that I can start planning accordingly?” I worry about where God is taking me, who I will end up with and what country I’ll be living in when I’m 30. Listen, I’m boring you with my worries, but you get the point, I worry. But in the midst of all that worry, I’ve learned that I must be patient, diligent in prayer, and come to terms that God’s got it all under control.
Your prayer: “Father give me Your peace and calmness in the midst of my worry. I rebuke fear and worry in Jesus name. I cling to You and your promises knowing that you will never let me down. Lord I pray that though I may get overwhelmed, that I never lose sight of you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.”
If you know someone that may need this(these) letter(s), share it with them.
I hope I could be of encouragement to you. I love you and until my next blog post..
Peace & blessings,